Emotional dullness or just burnout: what to do if you don’t feel anything? How to understand how you feel. Tell me how you feel If you feel

Oh, this terrible state: when you wake up in the morning, you feel as if you never went to bed. The body aches, the head is heavy, like a cast-iron iron, all thoughts are not about the coming day, but about how to return home as soon as possible and reunite with the bed. Such a dream will not give productivity at work either, because if you feel that you did not get enough sleep, then it is most likely the case. The reason is that your sleep is not efficient enough, and many factors can be to blame. We decided to look into this problem and help you solve it once and for all.

Lack of normal sleep

This is the most simple reason which can explain this disease. You just . This may be due to several reasons. Perhaps you do not follow the regime and go to bed at random. If you go to bed at 11:00 pm and wake up at 7:00 am, you will feel much better than if you go to bed at 2 am and wake up at 11 am.

You will feel overwhelmed and not get enough sleep, and you will return to normal only in the afternoon. The built mode is the key to a good rest, in addition, healthy sleep directly affects brain activity. And if you train, then the growth of muscle mass depends on the rest.

The second point is the number of hours you spend sleeping. To feel in good shape, you need to sleep for 8 hours, otherwise fatigue will accumulate, which can develop into chronic lack of sleep. This promises weight loss and reduced work capacity, so do not think that you will be able to walk a lot every day and sleep for 4 hours. Over time, this will lead to a breakdown of the nervous system.

Poor nutrition

One reason could be food. Yes, you can look healthy but not get the nutrition you need. Improper nutrition is one of the most common reasons why in the morning you feel like you just resurrected, and not woke up.

To avoid this, you must eat a balanced diet, including vegetables, fruits, and greens in your diet. It is necessary to consume enough Vitamin A, C and B12, calcium, magnesium and zinc are important for brain health. You can drink a complex of vitamins - they will make up for the lack of substances in your body, which you did not even suspect.

chronic stress

A person who lives in constant stress cannot even dream of normal, healthy sleep. Nervous work, domestic squabbles, personal experiences - all this is fraught with sleep disorders. The workplace literally generates stress, because often we not only have obligations to our employer, but also bear financial responsibility. It gives rise to fears, which puts a person in a state of constant stress. nervous tension accumulates and often does not find a way out, and at the moment when one should sleep, thoughts do not allow to fall asleep. The brain continues to work, thinking how to solve this or that situation.

If there is no way to change jobs, then find a way to throw out the accumulated stress. Learn to rest in such a way as to completely unload your head from extraneous thoughts. Even on my own workplace can be stressful, and traveling to get there through traffic and crowds is not conducive to mental peace.
Today, many employers allow employees to work remotely. Working from home does not cause so much stress, no time is wasted standing in traffic jams, and the hustle and bustle in public transport will bypass. If your presence in the office is not required, then try to discuss with the employer the prospect of working from home - this will save you time and nerves.

Passive lifestyle

Sedentary work, lack of physical activity and sports can. Life without movement is slowly killing you, because blood circulation is disturbed: the blood no longer circulates so well through the body and supplies it with all the necessary substances for normal functioning. Such stagnation negatively affects the functioning of the brain and the state of the body as a whole.

If you have a sedentary job, then actively go in for sports at least a couple of times a week, arrange jogging in the morning or evening. If this is not possible, then take breaks between work for a short workout and arrange half-hour walks every day. By the way, taking a walk and getting some fresh air before going to bed will be a great solution, because after that it is much easier to fall asleep.

Dehydration

You may be surprised, but this factor greatly affects your sleep. In order for a person to decrease attentiveness, it is enough to reduce by only 2% the required level of fluid that must be contained in the body.

Moreover, most people are chronically dehydrated. This does not mean that they are about to die, rather this indicator indicates that people do not consume enough fluid for the normal functioning of the body. Water gives the brain the energy it needs to function, including thinking and memory processes. H2O is also involved in the production of certain hormones in the brain. Keep your water balance in a normal state and try to drink as soon as you feel thirsty.

Sometimes a day comes in a woman's life when she wants to smash a mirror, crawl under the covers, grab a box of eclairs, and complain about her unattractiveness as a woman. Eclairs, of course, will not add attractiveness, but they will sweeten the bitterness of imperfection.

And I have for you a selection of 99% working advice from a psychologist on how to increase your attractiveness. Why 99%? Yes, because I leave 1% for those who prefer to go for a second box of eclairs instead of following the advice.

If you feel unattractive

Ranked first in terms of efficiency confidence in yourself and your abilities. A beautiful gait, a straight back, a raised head and a triumphant smile are attached to this feeling as a bonus. What to do to feel attractive? Just believe in yourself!

In second place in the guide to getting rid of your own unattractiveness is - and this is predictable! - change of image, image, appearance. Without radical methods, just with the help of an experienced stylist. When you see yourself transformed in the mirror, you will be 100% sure of your attractiveness. And the views of passers-by and the compliments of colleagues will not keep you waiting long and will remove the last doubts.

In third place is the most pleasant recommendation: photo session with a great photographer. A few thoughtful images, a glass of wine or something stronger to sparkle your eyes, a little coquetry and emancipation... Add to this the skill of a photo artist - and for the first week you will look at your photos several times a day. And you will definitely want to register with a marriage agency so that thousands of free men can see your photos. It's no secret that it is high-quality photographs that help to successfully marry.

In fourth place I settled comfortably smile. I do not know women who would not smile. But I know many whom a smile made mysterious, enigmatic, glowing from within. Interesting fact: men on dating sites stop looking at photos of those women who smile or even laugh, because a smile is simplest way radiate attraction and invite to a closer acquaintance.

In fifth place - communication. Maximum communication. You can start with communication on forums, in chats, on dating sites - where the interlocutor is evaluated by conversation, and not by appearance. Learn to be witty, sarcastically good-natured, sympathetic and funny. Change your mood depending on who you are talking to and on what topics. And when you realize that people are interested in you, that they are waiting for your letters or messages, that they listen to your opinion and laugh at your jokes - congratulations, this is success! Victory over your imaginary unattractiveness.

Do you agree that you are incredibly attractive and damn charming? ;-)

If apathy and blues are covered due to PMS or banal fatigue, there are no problems. You can easily get through all this in a couple of days with a bucket of ice cream and a vanilla movie - you yourself know.

But when indifference to life drags on, and not even for a week ... This needs to be dealt with. Most of all, the Universe does not like it when we waste our time.

Some people may simply suffer from a mental disorder in which they are not able to recognize and read the emotional background of situations, their feelings and other people.

But you do realize that they are in the minority.

Insensibility is not a cause, but a consequence of a problem that has been driven into the farthest corner - if only not to be solved.

And everything is quite understandable: unsuccessful relationships, disappointments in people, neurosis, stress at work, suppressed emotions, complexes, an excess of other people's opinions and desires in life.

The ability to “environmentally” and correctly live emotions is a real job, a valuable skill that a woman simply needs.

Attentive attitude to your feelings allows you to understand yourself, adequately analyze and evaluate your actions and reactions to different life situations.

When is the absence of feelings - it's normal, and when you need to sound the alarm? Let's find out.

neurosis and stress

While our society was quietly laughing at Americans who go to a psychologist with or without reason, we managed to accumulate and bottle up an unimaginable number of problems and unrealized emotions in ourselves.

The psyche of each of us needs the same basic hygiene as our body.

No work on yourself will be successful, no affirmations will make you enlightened if your only and the main idea sleep, for example.

Modern women have driven themselves into the framework of strength and independence, they have not learned how to take energy for all this - and they do not allow themselves to rest.

They live in a state of extreme physical and moral exhaustion, and then they wonder why they don’t feel attraction or love. Nothing.

Work on your past, on negative attitudes, so that tomorrow you can be better than today. It should - without a doubt. But if you don't feel anything, go on vacation.

I have been repeating to myself and my team for a year now: “Desire has thousands of possibilities, unwillingness has thousands of reasons.”

Think about why it’s beneficial and convenient for you to suffer and think, somewhere deep inside, and think “Why don’t I feel anything?”, “Why am I unlucky with men?”.

If you dig deep, you will find the answer. Take it with you on vacation for a week. And it is not necessary to fly to the Maldives for this. It is enough to spend time with yourself and for the benefit of yourself.

If you understand the mechanisms of your unconscious and know your weaknesses.

I am not advocating for you to quit your job immediately, but if you do the same actions and expect a different result, this is a losing strategy in advance. Therefore, first - let your psyche rest and recover.

Right Experience

The ability to openly and clearly express or realize their feelings -

As children, we were all told at least once: “don’t laugh so loudly”, “don’t shout”, “behave yourself”. Yes, these moments concerned upbringing and behavior in society.

But such formulations, as those that teach a child from early childhood to suppress and hide their emotions, to block reactions.

While you are on vacation

The ability and ability to feel is a purely female prerogative. And often it is directly related to the awareness of one's femininity and the acceptance of one's femininity.

Try the next exercise. It will help track your relationship with men - if your insensitivity is associated with past experience of unsuccessful relationships.

Over the next week, look those in the eye. And remember how you feel about it.

You can even start a notebook in which you will describe your feelings. Incredibly, you will be surprised when you realize that you feel shame, lack of dignity, fear, or other negativity.

Do you want a harder task? Look into your eyes, smile and wave your hand. Here you can feel the whole range of emotions. Especially when a man smiles back and walks in your direction to.

And there is another important point worth mentioning. Never judge your feelings and emotions, because this is the voice of your soul.

Firstly, a person by nature is allowed not only to smile permanently, but sometimes to cry or get angry. If we didn't need it, evolution wouldn't instill these feelings in us.

Secondly, the most important life experience is to wean yourself from reflection, not to be led by situations and other people, not to fall into emotional hooks and.

By the way, fear or aversion to manifestations negative emotions- another reason why you can be completely unemotional. Tears, sweat, redness, tremors - not as aesthetically pleasing as they show in the movies, but we do not live in a fairy tale.

BUT real life- this is about a different experience, not only about sheer joy. Otherwise we wouldn't have learned anything.

If, as a child, your mother dressed you only in trousers and insisted that you should achieve everything yourself, the disclosure of your female potential will be a real miracle for you. This is a very difficult, but pleasant work on yourself.

Or another example - if after an unsuccessful relationship you decided that all “men are goats”, then after working through this belief, you will give yourself a chance for real feelings and emotions, which means happiness for a woman.

I don't like anyone

A phrase that I hear more and more often from modern women. Translating it into simple and honest language: "I don't like those who like me." And there are three reasons why you don't feel anything for the men around you.

The first possible one is that you are fixated on an ideal, a fictional image that is convenient for you.

To provide for the family, and spend a lot of time with you, and, and so that you travel once a month and that flowers every week, and gifts every day.

Excuse me, but what are you going to do in the midst of this holiday, where is your area of ​​​​responsibility in this relationship?

Yes, male attention, flowers and gifts are important for a woman. But you need to go down to earth and become the one for which a man wants to do this.

A shirt from last season or a little shyness in a man can easily be the reason for your rejection. No. No. And once again no. After all, you are looking for the perfect.

Honey, I'll tell you a secret - there are no perfect people. Each has its own nuances. And if he put on a shirt from last season and was a little embarrassed on the first date - this is not an argument not to go on the second.

Striving for perfection - must clearly fit into the framework of adequacy, otherwise it is fraught with complete loneliness.

And we need a woman who is able to provide support, love and that very “rear”. While he "produces mammoths" for her happiness and comfort as well.

The second reason why you may have problems with feelings is a banal fear of relationships. For example, the divorce of parents and the lack of examples of happy families in front of your eyes and voila - the fear of relationships is right there.

Is it possible to get rid of the fear of intimacy? Yes, you certainly may. You don't need to fight it, you just need to understand the mechanism of fear.

How are brave people different from ordinary people? Everyone is afraid, but self-sufficient ones act, while others live in their fears.

Being brave does not mean stopping a galloping horse and putting out a hut, it means being honest with yourself and acting.

The third reason you don't like anyone is because you only hang out with one type of man. Think about the former - you will find in them a lot of common qualities in different modifications.

I must say right away that if you are surrounded by one, the question is definitely in you.

To judge yourself as a woman by one type of man, to put the stigma of "gray mouse", "blue stocking" and "loneliness" is not at all correct.

Therefore, you need to “work out” yourself in order to go beyond the usual circle. You can’t sit in a swamp and wait for someone to come and save you, suddenly making you happy and emotional.

You need to pull yourself out and go to new people in order to get new emotions.

Feelings are muscles

If you don't train them, they become flabby and lifeless. If you don't move at all, they just atrophy.

But you need to act according to the scheme: "experienced an emotion - embodied." If you have embarked on the path, having worked through all of the above, you will learn how to create the world around you with the help of emotions.

A "warm" emotional background and the state of femininity are the main keys to starting a happy relationship.

I believe in your happiness
Yaroslav Samoilov

The most important thing that can connect two people is truth, sincerity, openness.
In everything, always. And I’ll tell you, honestly: when a person openly admits to you his doubts, fears about you, this is much more valuable than saying “I Love You, You Are Very Dear to me.”

Such openness hurts self-esteem very much. How? I? How can I not be trusted? Sincerity of this level sends an adrenaline rush right to the core of your ego.

That is why not everyone is ready to listen to the truth. After all, as you know, she pricks her eyes and undermines her unshakable conceit about herself. That's why most people's reactions to the truth are so painful. After all, with your sincerity, step on a person’s ego.

Therefore, sincerity is the responsibility of both. The first gathers courage and speaks, choosing very carefully the words that best reflect his feelings. The second is to gain courage and listen, look into himself, realize the tingling of his own ego and try to understand and feel the pain and doubts of his neighbor.

I assure you, when you move from the position of "Me and my Point of View" to the position of "he/she and his/her feelings and perceptions", there will be an important transformation with you first. There will be a flash, a surge of energy within each of the partners, and this will lead to the realization of an even deeper connection between you.

The words. The words.

In relationships, I have developed one very simple rule - always feel the soul, and then try to understand the words.

Words are an imperfect, shaky foundation on which it is hardly possible to build anything solid. If you rely on words in a relationship, then you have every chance of experiencing severe disappointment.

Therefore, a mantra appeared in my life: "Tell me how you feel? Every time I want to get closer to the joint truth between me and my beloved, I ask her this question.

This question immediately draws her attention to her feelings and sensations, which cannot be conceptualized. They are what they are, and she starts telling me about them.

At first, hesitantly, shyly, and then more and more naturally. The truth transforms us both. It allows you to immerse yourself, see the world of your neighbor and get to know it better and thereby get rid of a pack of illusory ideas about your neighbor.

Sincerity is sex with the soul of your partner. Impulsive, sensual. Saturated with energy, which writes unimaginable somersaults inside.

Sincerity is great! Sometimes it makes everything inside tingle with pain, but after going through this, seeing life through the eyes of your loved one, you give birth to something more than just an emotional attachment. Gleb Efimenko - Kogan.

The feeling of love comes suddenly - it seems to cover with the head. A loved one seems ideal, the best in the world. And they are ready to live with him all their lives and never be separated. But not every feeling of love is durable, often it is replaced by ordinary affection for a person.

Instruction

How to understand your feelings and understand whether you love or live with each other due to a strong habit?
First, you should find out why such thoughts came to your mind, for sure, something did not suit you in the relationship. And this is understandable, because after some time of living together, passion dulls, there is no novelty of emotions, so the relationship becomes quite calm and monotonous. This can cause boredom and thoughts that love is long gone. Is it worth living together then?

Don't jump to conclusions. The fact that you are not now experiencing every minute flashes of passion, as in the days when you started dating, is a natural phenomenon. But that doesn't mean love is over. It's just that your feeling has moved to a new, more mature level. You have to be able to save it.

Psychologists identify several signs family relations by which you can understand whether you still love each other or live in affection. Your partner is not perfect, but you are happy with him.
For example, you always dreamed of an athlete and activist chosen one, and you married a homebody who spends free time reading magazines and books. When the first emotional downturn of your feelings passes, you begin to soberly evaluate your partner, clearly see all his shortcomings and habits that you did not notice during the period of passionate love. It is at this very time that you should decide for yourself whether you can live with the shortcomings of your beloved. Moreover, it is not to get along and endure, but to live happily and calmly, accepting a person as he is.

You feel confident and comfortable with the person.
You are not alarmed by the fact that now you do not walk all night long, and your husband does not climb into your bedroom through an open window. You understand that a married couple has other joys. You are happy that your loved one, returning from work, does not forget to buy you your favorite cookie, that you fall asleep on his shoulder every night. Of course, and in married life there is a place for unusual impressions and emotions. It all depends on you and your imagination. Do not think that family life is boring and monotonous. You just love and appreciate your chosen one, even if he does not arrange daily grandiose entertainment for you.

Love is built on mutual respect.
Neglect can kill even the most strong feelings. If spouses truly love each other, they will try to find compromises in controversial situations.

Love gives confidence.
Having a reliable, loving "rear", you can conquer more and more peaks for yourself. The support of a loved one is what gives us strength, inspires confidence in the future.

Speaking of love, it is worth saying a few words about habit. Is the situation really hopeless when you realize that there is no more love, only affection remains? It often happens that love passes, people quickly part and forget about each other. But the person you are used to is very difficult to let go. Habit is a terrible force.
Therefore, before destroying a relationship, consider whether your habit is just another form of love.

note

Recognizing that love has passed is worth it if you stop associating everything with one particular person. Spain becomes just a country, not a place where you spent your holidays together, and the jewelry that he gave, only a jewelry that you no longer want to wear every day. You notice couples in love and realize perfectly well that you are no longer like them.

Useful advice

How to understand that love has passed? What contributed to this? Let's figure it out. Scientists have identified hormones that are responsible for each stage of a love relationship. They also proved that love is not eternal. How long does love take? Representatives of the older generation can answer: "Love lives for three years." And they turn out to be right, although they rely only on life experience, and not science.

Loving someone is great, but not everything is always clear and understandable. For example, you are dating a girl, and your relationship seems to be building well, but you are not sure whether you love your soul mate, or is it just a romance that will end soon.

Such uncertainty scares a little, prevents you from living peacefully and sleeping at night. It is imperative to look into this matter. But how to understand your feelings for a person?

Just sympathy for analysis is sold, but warmer feelings are not.

You yourself can easily determine whether this or that person is attractive to you. It’s just nice for you to be together, to communicate, but your heart doesn’t stop when a person you like enters the room, you don’t miss him, well, or almost don’t miss him. But if you are tormented by trying to answer the question “Do I love this girl?”, Everything is already more difficult here, because love cannot be analyzed, it is a complex multifaceted feeling, not an emotion.

retire

You will not be able to understand this issue if the person you love (or only you think so) is sitting in front of you. And in general, no other people, pets should be around at the time of your reflections. Eliminate extraneous sounds - turn off the radio, TV, computer so as not to hear the buzzing of the fans of the cooling system.

Think about the person with whom you need to decide on feelings. What emotions do you feel when you think about a girl - positive, negative, or maybe neutral or no emotions at all? Do you want to be with her now? It is quite possible that all these reflections and the search for answers will drag on for more than one evening, but then you will finally understand your feelings.

live together

Are you dating a girl now? And you try to rent an apartment and live there together for several months. Imagine that you are already married. If you are driven simply by passion or love, you won’t last long, life will definitely finish you, and the girl will appear for you in a new light. You suddenly find out that she, for example, does not know how to cook or does not bother herself with housework at all. And here your feelings will be seriously tested. If, despite all the difficulties of living together, you will still love the person as before, then your love is real.

Can't figure out if a man is in love with you? Look into a man's eyes to see how he feels! Unlike words, a look never lies.

The eyes are the mirror of the soul, and the soul, as you know, never lies. Words can hide our true feelings, but a look can never. Especially when it comes to the look of a man in love. The ability to read eyes is a very useful activity that every girl should master, because only in this way can you understand what your partner is really experiencing.

Do you want to know how a man feels for you? Just look into his eyes! Here are some tips to help you read the truthful answer in them.

How do you know how a man feels about you?

The direction of his gaze

To inspire confidence in a person, psychologists advise looking directly into his eyes during a conversation. However, if the interlocutor does not arouse sympathy in us, it is incredibly difficult to do this, and the gaze now and then slides around. And vice versa - if a person is pleasant and interesting to us, we literally cannot take our eyes off his eyes, trying to capture not only the words, but also the emotions of our counterpart.

Communicating with a girl who evokes the most tender feelings in a man, he unconsciously establishes direct eye contact with her. This is a common psychological reaction that cannot be controlled. When an object of interest to us falls into our field of vision, we direct all our attention to it, trying not to miss a single detail.

Eye Contact Duration

According to psychological research, while talking with friends, colleagues, relatives or acquaintances, people look into each other's eyes for about 50% of the total conversation time. If the dialogue is between two lovers, the duration of eye contact increases to 80%. At the same time, the look acquires intimacy and softness, as if people want to become even closer to each other.

To understand whether a man is in love with you or if there is only flirting on his part, pay attention to where his gaze is directed in between conversations. When a man is really interested in a girl, most of the time he looks at her face. If his gaze drops lower, wandering over your figure, his thoughts are occupied with fantasies of intimacy with you.

That is why men often do not remember the details of our image or features of appearance. For example, if you ask a man who recently talked with a girl he liked what she was wearing, he most likely will not remember, because during the conversation his attention was focused on her eyes and face.

dilated pupils

Love affects our body like a drug. At least these two phenomena have one thing in common - dilated pupils. When a man looks at his girlfriend, his pupils involuntarily dilate. This is due to the strong emotions that are now raging in his heart.

Concentration of attention

In a normal conversation, the duration of continuous eye contact averages 5-6 seconds, after which the gaze involuntarily “runs away” to the side. But the look of a man in love acquires special concentration and attentiveness.

During the conversation, the main object of male attention is the girl, so now he is not interested in what is happening around. If at this moment something happens that makes you switch your attention, the process of looking away proceeds with a slight slowdown.

As a rule, during normal flirting, a man is not so focused. With a superficial interest, a man looks into the eyes of his interlocutor only when he speaks himself, as if reading the reaction to his monologue in his eyes. When a girl joins the conversation, his gaze involuntarily drops down or to the side.

Raised eyebrows

The slightly raised eyebrow gesture is a sign of sympathy and trust. Raising his eyebrows, the man subconsciously says that he believes your every word and wants you to believe him too.

Together with raised eyebrows, the lips of the man involuntarily stretch into a smile, and the body leans forward slightly. Being part of non-verbal communication, all these gestures occur unconsciously, and it is impossible to control them.

Related gestures

In addition to the "bottomless" look, a man in love will be given out several accompanying gestures. For example, when a guy is overwhelmed with feelings, he unobtrusively touches the object of his passion, narrows the distance, and also uses preening gestures - straightening his hair or shirt collar. Translated from non-verbal language, all this means only one thing - a man is in love and he wants you to experience exactly the same feelings for him.

The gaze of a man in love is like a bottomless ocean. Even if he has not yet spoken the cherished words, you will definitely feel his love, because he will reward you with the most special look.

How to understand that you love, and not in love. How to understand if a loved one loves you

If with all questions concerning a person, it is best to approach and ask, then, as for sympathies, this method may not work, because out of a sense of embarrassment they may answer you that they don’t like, and out of a desire not to offend tell you that they love. However, there are several indirect signs if doubts remain about the confession made or not made. Significantly more eloquent are always actions that betray a person's attitude. If you notice that they care about you, always remember events or plans that are significant for you, help or try to please, then this is definitely about sincere sympathy. But in assessing actions, make allowances for how your loved one perceives the world, it is likely that he will show his signs of attention differently than you would (if in your case these are constant SMS messages, then he may not write, taking care so as not to disturb you).

Perhaps the most important sign of serious love is the construction of joint plans. When your relationship is long, then the plans should be big, about common Home and children, and for the initial stage, plans for weekends and holidays are good. If this does not happen, then the conversation can be initiated on your own, because the person is afraid to frighten you off with his serious attitude (after all, many girls believed magazine articles and simply do not talk about plans with the aim not to frighten off their beloved).

The fact that you were introduced to your circle of friends, and possibly relatives, indicates a serious positioning of your relationship, and when you are introduced to new acquaintances as your soul mate, then this is love. If you notice that in public he moves away, and he represents you neutrally, then either you have chosen an extremely secretive and stern man, or he is not defined in feelings.

You want to share with your loved one, and this should include not only material things, but also friends and time, advice from experience and mood. The desire to share with you their joyful participation in your life speaks of love, but the division of spheres with a clear definition without the desire to unite, shows a person’s unwillingness to open up.

In order to express love, it is not necessary to pronounce this word, but such an attitude should be felt, and if you have doubts, then try to speak frankly.

All of the above signs of falling in love lie in the material plane. These are the conclusions that follow from specific words and actions of the man. But you can understand that a guy is hiding feelings without resorting to complex psychological analysis. It is enough to observe how he looks at his beloved girl.

The look of a man in love without words betrays sincere sympathy. He is unable to control himself, the call of nature makes him look at the object of his adoration with “crimson eyes”. In such a look, admiration and delight are easily read. He views the woman as a beautiful painting, admiring every movement and curve of her body. Sometimes spellbound freezes for a moment, as if plunging into a trance.

Subjects with strong psychological preparation, trying to hide this expressive feature. Realizing that it is indecent to constantly look at a lady, they begin to “encrypt”: to cast frequent glances on the sly. But cover-up tactics reveal themselves sooner or later.

Sometimes it is difficult for people to determine exactly what feelings they have for a person. Love is replaced by hatred, then indifference, affection, passion, distrust alternately rule the ball in the soul. In a word, it is so easy to get confused in the whole gamut of feelings and emotions and give them some clear definition. How to realize what exactly you feel for a particular person?

If the attitude towards a person lends itself to at least some kind of logical analysis, then things are much more complicated and confusing with feelings. Not all people easily identify their emotions, personal sensations and feelings. But you need to learn to listen to yourself, to your inner voice and intuition.

To do this, you need complete concentration, the absence of noise and fuss. It is best to determine your inner feelings in solitude, when nothing distracts you from the process of comprehension. great mystery your soul. Think about the person you are interested in and try to understand exactly how your heart feels towards him. Do you feel positive emotions, or vice versa? Do you want to be with him or not? You may need to think about it for several days or even weeks, but the result you arrive at will be quite accurate.

In addition, it is quite easy to be convinced of the depth of your feelings if you live with a person you like for a while. It is in everyday life that the compatibility of two people is comprehended, as well as their ability to change, adjusting to each other. You can be mistaken for a long time, naively believing that you are madly in love with your partner, but a few months spent together can easily and simply dispel this myth. But if you are dealing with a real soulmate, then no quarrels, trials and obstacles will allow you to throw him out of your life.

Therefore, try to communicate with the person of the opposite sex that interests you as often as possible. Only in this way will you be able to comprehend the unknown facets of his character, which can both increase your sympathy for him and kill all feelings. If you start to feel very uncomfortable in communication, you may decide to break this connection or want to change yourself in order to save your relationship. In any case, it is by no means the mind and not the advice of friends and relatives that will help you accept the right decision in the field of love and emotions. Listen only to your soul, which will not deceive you.

Of course, we would need a kind of indicator that would allow us to determine whether this is love or not. However, wise scientists have not yet invented such a device, which is why we will “identify” interest, affection, sex, sympathy and love according to certain signs and parameters.

Method number 1. Test

Can't make sense of your own experiences and feelings? Answer a few simple questions:

1. Do you think about him (her) before falling asleep, want to wish him pleasant dreams?
2. Are you trying to make him happy?
3. Do you feel good, calm next to your chosen one?
4. When you think about him, smile, blush and worry?
5. Are you counting the hours until you meet him?
6. Do you consider him the most best man(woman)?
7. You know about all his shortcomings, but you continue to accept him as he is?
8. Does the long breakup bother you?

If you answered all the questions with a confident “yes”, congratulations, your feelings are sincere. When there is uncertainty in the answers, it is worth thinking. Remember that the test should be taken in your normal state, avoiding special joys and quarrels.

Method number 2. Pros and cons

Common psychological method- divide a sheet of paper into two columns and write down the positive and negative qualities of your chosen one. So you can get your real attitude towards him and a vision of his personality.

Analyze the pros and cons. What is your loved one made of? Of the advantages or disadvantages? The predominance of positive qualities is another joyful evidence of your love and good relationship to a partner.

Method number 3. Meditation

Sit more comfortably in an easy chair, on a carpet that is pleasant to the body - you will have to spend half an hour on it. In addition, there should be no distractions, extraneous thoughts. Entering into a "trance" is easier to do by focusing on your own breathing.

Having calmed down and abandoned extraneous thoughts, imagine this person. Happened? What do you feel? Do you want to approach, kiss, hug or run away? Decide on all your feelings (negative and positive) that arise when the image of a loved one appears.

Method number 4. "He is no more"

Quite a brutal but effective technique. Try to imagine that your chosen one is no longer with you (no need to get hung up on this idea). Or perhaps you never met at all. What are you thinking about? Are such performances comfortable? Or perhaps they only bring you pain and discomfort? We understand the significance of any thing or person when we no longer possess them. The result of reflection will be an understanding of what feelings you have for your chosen one.