If you're not minding your own business. An easy way to tell if you're doing what you're doing? How to understand that you are doing your own thing

How long does it take to figure out how to find your purpose.

• I understood in my childhood what my vocation was;
• I continue the family tradition and follow in the footsteps of my parents, continue their work;
• I am still in search of my destiny;
• found and now doing what I love;
• purpose? No, I didn't.

Take part in the survey (at the end of the article on the right)

Everyone chooses his own path. Some prefer not to choose at all, but simply go with the flow. However, this is also a choice.

Looking around, I notice how many people are unhappy.

People who endure their work all week long in anticipation of the weekend and in the hope of a vacation.

People who come home completely exhausted, who no longer have the strength or desire to communicate with their families.

People who are inherently good, but tired of their lives, and because of this, irritated and embittered by the whole world. AT free time they try to relax and gain strength while sitting in front of the TV or at the computer. And all in order to then go to an unloved job. What for? To feed a family that you hardly see.

Think back to your childhood. You must have dreamed of becoming someone! Then everything was clear.

“I don’t want to be a machinist, I won’t.”

We would not understand in childhood why do something that does not bring pleasure.

Children know exactly what they want.

What do adults want?

For all your adult affairs, you forget to think about what you really want. But the meaning of life is to find your purpose.

How to understand that you are doing your own thing:

- enjoy your work

You can do your job anytime, anywhere. You quickly plunge into the process of work that captivates you for a long time.

- strength is added, and not vice versa

With each new task, strength is only added. Your work gives a lot of energy! You are ready to overcome any obstacles in order to achieve results in your field.

- need to develop

You are engaged in your professional growth, experiencing a constant need to gain new knowledge in this area. You are on the path to perfecting your skills.

Benefit those around you

Doing what you love, you are ready to talk about it at any time and share your experience with others. You feel that your work not only brings joy to you, but also benefits others. And you are ready to give even more. Your head is occupied by the thoughts “How to do better for people?”

- work not for profit

Money is not decisive in choosing your business. When you immerse yourself in your favorite business, give yourself completely to work, you can easily part with money for training and improving your skill. Over time, having achieved certain results in your field, your favorite business brings income.

To make a big profit, you need to please a lot of people.

- you shape your own life

Gradually, you begin to notice that the number of ideas is only growing every day. I want to create. You feel like you are in the right place. You notice that around you there are people who share your goals.

A successful person strives to realize himself to the maximum and help others. Doing what you love, you are 100% fulfilling your potential.

A happy person knows how to take and give.

Do you want to be happy:

- engage in your personal growth every day;

- help others.

Deepak Chopra singled out 3 questions that will help you understand how to find your purpose:

1. What are your unique talents?

Shot from the movie "Fight Club"

Am I there? Is that what I do? Most likely, a person who has found the “work of life” will not ask such questions. But how to understand that such doubts are not just a momentary weakness, but a good reason to change the field of activity? Let's ask the experts what signs indicate the need to seek self-realization in another matter.

Vasilina Nekryach, coach-consultant, business coach of the "Leader's Workshop" company:

Most of the time you don't think about work.
If 90% of your working time you think about non-work projects and are busy with non-work tasks at all, for example, you are reading this article, you should think about it.

Svetlana Petrovicheva, Managing Partner of the 21st Century Recruitment Center:

Stop in development
It seems to you that you know everything about your profession.

Have you already started planning your escape?
You periodically calculate your savings to estimate how long you can survive without a job.

Ilya Goldovsky, partner in "Psychology of Employment":

You have been working in a certain area for a long time, but still have not achieved success
Each person has the ability for a certain activity, and, as the typologies of Jung, Adizes and others show, there are no “universal soldiers”, each person is strong in something specific, be it the logical sphere, communications, work with material objects, etc. If an employee is realized according to "strong functions", he not only achieves impressive results in his profession, but also experiences job satisfaction and a sense of self-realization.

Therefore, if you work long and hard in a certain area, and at the same time not only did not achieve career heights, but also experience constant fatigue and a feeling of “professional burnout”, this is the first signal that you need to change your profession.

There is no progress
In any process, it is possible to single out marker events showing that everything is going “there”, including in professional development: the development of new skills, the complication of tasks, the appearance of subordinates, etc. By the dynamics of the passage of these points, one can judge the general prospects. It is obvious that such events cannot occur every three months. But if they are not there for more than a year, then this is a serious reason to think.

Albert Mitsevich, head of the HR department of the online microcredit service "Honest Word":

You are constantly depressed
Being engaged in personal affairs at work, you hide from yourself dissatisfaction with your position. You do not get pleasure even from well-executed tasks, because you are burdened by the very process of being in the workplace.

Everything annoys you, especially at work
You come into conflict with colleagues, torment subordinates. The very thought of some new tasks and the need to "move" makes you feel unhappy.

Lyubov Bogdanova, founder and head of the International Center for the Study and Practice of Conscious Breathing:

You are not satisfied
The material reward is not high enough for you, and the intangible impact (emotional or psychological order) or not positive enough, or even completely negative (a tense atmosphere in the team, an unfair boss, etc.). The thought of having to “go there” and “do it” again is a strong disgust.

Olga Nikitina, head of the recruitment department of the Biplan marketing agency:

Decreased concentration
If you are looking for an excuse to talk to colleagues or watch memes, then it's time for you to make changes in your life.

You only work for money
Ask yourself why am I working for this company? If you answered: “money”, then you are not doing your job and losing your main resource - time.

Daria Karyakina, Senior Gamedev Recruiter at Spice IT Recruitment:

Too often go for a smoke break / pour some tea / water the flowers
Trying to rid yourself of the hateful work chair and table, you will find any excuse to run away. Even if the flower does not need water and will soon die from your care.

The feeling of “How is it already 6 pm? I just got here!”
A truly burning employee cannot stop even at home, even at midnight. It is always not enough for him and seems insufficient. If you complain about the fact that there are 24 hours in a day, calm down, you don’t need to change your job.

Come to work and rage
The annoyance you feel may not be because a colleague is wearing a too bright pink blouse or you got up on the wrong foot. Exhale and listen to yourself, or maybe, well, him, is that all?

You chronically hate Mondays and worship Fridays
The standard situation when Friday 6 pm comes, and all office workers shouting “Sparta!” run, run, run... Out. But Monday comes, and each of them, with tears in their eyes, is waiting for her, dear, distant. Friday, like Monday for you Groundhog Day? Better run out of the office for good. There are many more adventures and interesting job offers ahead.

In fact, if the thought of searching new job, there is no need to look for any special signs. Inside, you already feel that you are not there, not with those, and you need to dump.

What if you stay?

Daria Pantyukh, HR specialist and psychologist at the Personal Partner Consulting boutique warns: “If you are afraid to change your field, or “persuade” yourself to stay because of stability and fear of change, other signs, more serious, may come:

• Psychosomatics (from back and neck pain to systematic health problems).
• depressive states when it seems that the meaning of life disappears.
• Problems in relationships with colleagues, and then with superiors. This is usually internal unconscious sabotage.
• The last, when a person unconsciously does everything to get fired, thereby removing responsibility for " decision". He is fired, he takes it personally, after that for a long time he cannot survive this pain and “move on”.

Therefore, if by indirect signs you begin to understand that there is no more joy and satisfaction, it's time to change something. Otherwise, you run the risk of becoming an unhappy person, since a career and a professional part of life are just as important? as well as the personal part.

And how many signs did you find in yourself?

An immortal soul needs an immortal work just like itself. And this is the case, the endless improvement of oneself and the world - and given to her.
Lev Tolstoy

All people tend to experience a state of uncertainty, throwing from side to side in search of themselves. If you are not completely sure that you are doing your business, there is a great opportunity to check it out right now. Well-known American business consultant Peter Cohan has suggested 7 main signs for this to help you deal with this problem.

7 signs of your calling

To do this, correlate your answers with these postulates, and you will understand how your work suits you.

1. You can do your job at any time, under any circumstances, and in any state of health. Dale Carnegie once said that "People rarely succeed if they are busy doing things that do not give them pleasure."
2. You are immersed in the process of work immediately and for a long time. Focusing on what you love is like deep meditation. Time and everything that happens around cease to matter.
3. You are in constant need of professional growth and gaining new knowledge. You participate in discussions related to your favorite thing.
4. You enjoy sharing your experience with other people. Your knowledge comes to you easily, so you are just as easily ready to share it. You are not disturbed by the thought that someone will become better than you, using your knowledge.
5. You are open to new things. Favorite business gives a big boost of energy that you want and are ready to spend on exciting things. You are open to new acquaintances, travel and ideas.
6. Money is not the deciding factor for you. If you are completely immersed in your business, then it is easy to spend a significant part of your money on it. And after a while, your favorite business brings you income with the same ease.
7. Desired events are increasingly starting to happen in your life. And all you have to do is watch the good fortune. New acquaintances, creative ideas seem to come into your life by themselves. This technique is a universal determinant that gives an answer to the question - “Am I doing my own business?” Every time you have doubts, check yourself on all 7 points, and you can change your activities for the better!

Write in the comments, what do you think, are you doing your life's work? And how did you define it?

The Sultan finished state affairs for the day. Released foreign ambassadors. Decided to take care of the family. He calls the eunuch and orders: - Bring me my first wife. Performed. A little later - the second. Third, fourth... twentieth... twenty-fourth. They sent him for the twenty-fifth. And he, the poor fellow, is already all tired, barely breathing. And he says to the Sultan:

Oh my lord! Explain how it is, I bring your wives to you, I'm already exhausted, and you are like a cucumber?

And the Sultan answers him: - It's not your favorite work that tires you, but aimless wandering along the corridors.

I believe that we all came into this world for a reason and that we all have some meaning in it. I sincerely believe that we are all gifted with inimitable and unique talents. The realization of our talents is much more important than we ourselves realize.

First I'll tell my story

Last year, I was knocked off my feet by the sheer amount of things to do because I was chasing my dream of money and “success.” I don't even remember why I need it. Luckily, I met Jim (name changed). Jim achieved the financial success that I was so eager for. He was financially independent, he successfully led several projects, he had real estate in many countries, he could afford all the luxuries that money can buy.

He was able to achieve all this thanks to hard work, constancy and responsibility! But Jim was not happy. He did not have free time to enjoy his wealth. He wanted to have a family. He wanted peace. He wanted to live his life...but he couldn't afford it. He had too many responsibilities, and if he didn't, he would lose a lot. He had a lot to protect. Jim has spent years building his castle, and now that the building is complete, he spends all of his time making sure the castle doesn't collapse from outside influences.

Getting to know Jim opened my eyes to my life and made me change it. His words brought me to my senses. It suddenly became clear to me that “I don’t want to spend the next 10 years of my life chasing money, in order to later discover my emotional, mental and spiritual development at the same level at which it was at the beginning of the chase. The brakes screeched, my pursuit stalled and then was put aside. I spent the next two months reassessing my life goals.

The following questions came to my mind: What am I chasing? Why am I doing this? What is my true purpose? What am I here for?

While reading E-Myth: Why Most Small Businesses Don't Work by Michael Gerber, I found myself crying. In that chapter, the author asked readers to do visualization exercises. By following his instructions, you visualize the day of your funeral clearly in your mind. What kind of eulogy would you like? What will be your lifetime achievements? What will the end of your life have for you highest value? Is this what you are doing now?

I began to write. I started making a list of what really matters to me. I wrote down everything I wanted to do. I rethought my priorities. For myself, I decided that all the steps I take should lead to the achievement of a goal that corresponds to my personal values ​​​​and is what I really want from life. With each new opportunity that comes up, I have to determine whether that opportunity is right for my ultimate goal. No matter how much money a new opportunity brings me, if it goes against my life goals I won't be using it. I formulated my goal as follows:

To inspire, motivate and motivate people to live happier and more meaningful lives.

Here are some of the most important tasks for me:

• For me, it is of great importance to agree with oneself, self-realization and a feeling of happiness;
• The greatest value for me is serious relationships with people, the ability to build real relationships at a deep level;
• I will be financially independent and in control of my time and location. I want to work only on those projects and implement only those ideas that I like. My financial situation will not conflict with my values ​​and life goals;
• I will travel and live in various parts Sveta. Having become acquainted with all kinds of cultures, I will document them in photographs and share my impressions with others;
• I will buy my mother in Vancouver a house with a swimming pool in the yard. This is her dream and I want to make it come true;
• Family is important to me. I want my husband and I to have a strong and loving relationship.
• I try to live like this every day full life like it's my last day.

15 questions to help you understand your life goals.

A list of these questions can help you recognize your life goals. They are designed to help you mentally formulate the tasks that you must complete during your life.

Easy instructions:

• Take some sheets of writing paper;
• Find a place where no one will disturb you. Disable mobile phone;
• Write down the answers to all questions. Write down the first thing that comes to mind. Write without editing. Answer all questions. It is more important to write down all the answers, and not just think about them;
• Write fast. Give yourself no more than 60 seconds for each question. And it's better if it takes you less than 30 seconds;
• Be honest. Nobody will read this. It is very important to write without editing;
• Enjoy what you are doing and smile at the same time.

15 questions:

1. What makes you smile? (Occupation, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)
2. What did you enjoy doing in the past? What do you like to do now?
3. What kind of work can you lose track of time doing?
4. What makes you proud of yourself?
5. Who is your biggest inspiration? (Someone you know or don't know personally. Your family members, friends, writers, artists, politicians etc.). What qualities of each of your inspirations exemplify you?
6. What are you especially good at? (Your skills, abilities and talents).
7. What kind of help do people usually turn to you for?
8. If you had to teach someone something, what would you teach?
9. What would you regret in your life? (Imperfect actions, absence of something).
10. Imagine that you are already 90 years old. You sit in a rocking chair on the porch of your house and bask in the gentle rays of spring. You are happy and relaxed, you are satisfied with the wonderful life that has been given to you. You remember your whole life, think about what you achieved during this life and what you had. You iterate over all relationships in memory. What matters the most to you? Make a list.
11. What are your true values? Choose 3-6 words in descending order of importance.

What are your highest values?
Achievements	Friendship	Quality of work
Adventures	Helpfulness	Personal growth
the beauty	Health	The game
To be the best	Honesty	Productivity
Challenge	Independence	Initiative
Convenience	inner peace	Relations
Courage	Directness	Reliability
Creation	Intelligence	Respect
Curiosity	Close relations	Safety
Education	Fun	Spirituality
Confidence	Leadership	Success
Environment	Studies	Freedom in time
A family	Love	Diversity
Financial independence	Interest
Healthy lifestyle	Passion
Other values ​​not listed

12. What difficulties, difficulties and hardships have you had to overcome or what do you have to overcome on this moment? How do you do it?
13. What ideas do you truly believe in? What attracts you to them?
14. If you had to perform in front of large quantity people, what would your speech be about? Who would these people be?
15. You have talents, preferences, and values. How could you use what is given to you to serve, help, and make a personal contribution? (People, living beings, ideas, organizations, environment, world, etc.).

Your purpose in this world

“You change when you write down your goals and revise them, because for this you have to carefully, deeply reflect on what is really important to you and adjust your behavior to your beliefs”- Stephen Covey "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" (7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

You can understand your purpose by answering 3 questions:

• What do I want to do?
• Who do I want to help?
• What will be the result? What will I create?

Steps to define your purpose:

1. Quickly answer the 15 questions above.
2. List the words that describe you. For example: education, achievement of excellence, trust, inspiration, improvement, help, giving, guidance, inspiration, possession, motivation, education, organization, promotion, travel, growth, participation, satisfaction, understanding, teaching, creativity, etc.
3. Based on your 15 responses, list everything and everyone who and what you can help. For example: people, living beings, organizations, ideas, groups, environment etc.
4. Define your end goal. What benefit will those who got in the answer to the question above benefit from what you do?
5. State steps 2-4 in one or 2-3 sentences.

What is your goal? What is your purpose? What are your aspirations? Share your thoughts in the comments to the article.