An article on why strong people are lonely. “Every day you are surprised that the most worthy of people are lonely…. The problem of child loneliness in literary works

Matryona lived all alone. Her husband Yefim disappeared in the war (but there was no funeral), and six children died very early. Matryona had only an adopted daughter, Kira. Nobody mentioned Matryona. Everyone turned to her only for help, and the woman never refused to help. Nobody helped her. Matryona could not work: for several days she suffered from a strange illness. After the death of Matryona, everyone cared about her inheritance. People sobbed at the coffin for the sake of appearance, they seemed to be close people. Matryona Vasilievna was remembered not during her lifetime, but when she no longer needed it.

K.G. Paustovsky "Telegram"

Having left for St. Petersburg, Nastya left Katerina Ivanovna, her old mother, alone. The girl lived interesting life, went headlong into work. She did not think what it was like to be alone for her loved one, who was very far from her. Receiving letters from her mother, Nastya was glad that her mother was alive. The request of Katerina Ivanovna to come outraged the girl: she could not even imagine how she could quit work even for a few days. Only after receiving a telegram that her mother was dying did Nastya understand everything. She realized that she had doomed the only person who truly loved her to loneliness.

M. Sholokhov "The fate of man"

The war made Andrey Sokolov lonely. A shell that hit the house killed his wife and daughters, and on the eve of victory, his son Anatoly was killed by a sniper's bullet. But the loss of loved ones did not kill his best qualities in the hero. Andrei Sokolov adopted Vanyushka, whose parents died during the war. Two lonely people found each other at the most difficult time for both of them.

Jack London "Martin Eden"

When Martin Eden was an ordinary sailor and was just starting his path to fame, no one believed in him. To young man were not taken seriously, considering his plans to become a writer as silly dreams. Soon Martin Eden became famous. But the works that made him famous were written long ago. However, only then people began to reach out to the hero. And those who recently looked at him with disapproval. Money and fame made the hero a welcome guest in any home. But Martin Eden understood that he had not changed a bit from the time when he was on the road to glory. Being famous, he turned out to be even more lonely, because the world began to seem disgusting to the hero.

Original taken from irbis_legend in Scared of being alone?

The most worthy people are lonely. They are strong, passionate, but lonely.
For some reason, this very topic has been haunting me since this morning.
What are they really like inside?
Why?
I want to reflect on this with you.
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Such people are distinguished by charisma, often impeccable appearance, a lively brain, good upbringing and ideal manners.
Not always, of course, but most of the time.
In such people, thousands of devils and dependence on something are ALWAYS hidden.
A strong, imperious gaze, in which a slight sadness is barely visible ... or maybe not barely ....

They are looking for their people.
Their own for communication, for company and a pleasant stay, their own for love, relationships and family.
They can make mistakes more often, suffer more, make contact less often, and experience failure more difficult.
But each time, burning down in a relationship, they are reborn from the ashes, like Phoenix birds, becoming even more perfect and stronger.
And again, and again, start all over again.
And if they love, then everyone first tries to start with the same person ....

They don't like stereotypes modern society, it is almost impossible to impose someone else's opinion on them.
They often throw mud at them behind their backs, but no one will ever dare to say something to their face, and all rumors are broken about their iron character.
To smithereens.
Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, they are looking for such a person, next to whom it will be calm.
And this "calmly" is not based on the absence of quarrels, adrenaline or extreme facets of emotions.
This "calmly" means that there is a person nearby who will not betray.
A person whom you have unlimited faith, trust and 200% confidence in.
Even the strongest people need the assurance that they are loved.
They are looking for LOVE.
But often remain alone in this vast world.......

Loneliness.
For many, it is creepy and scary when you are all alone or alone.
At such moments, you see how life passes by, everyone in the area enjoys, smiles, rejoices in pleasant moments .....
And you... you don't live.
Or live, but by half ....
And the worst thing is that you see all the shortcomings, you try to fix everything, but it doesn’t work ...
You never stop waiting for your man....
Here I am. You see me, you hear me, you feel me!
Get it soon...
Warm, comfort, love.
You can live alone and you can live long enough, but what a torment it is.
Although, sometimes, being alone is sometimes necessary. Understand your path, evaluate your actions, think about the future ... what makes sense and what is in vain. But you should not fall into this state for a long time.

Many people are very afraid of loneliness. Moreover, from time immemorial, people have not left the fear of being alone. What is it that scares people so much? Is this condition really that terrible? Is it true that loneliness is the lot of strong and gifted individuals?

At one time, philosophers spoke in different ways on this subject. For example, V. Hugo considered loneliness a poison, and A. Olcott associated it with the onset of old age. Some great minds have argued that loneliness is an indicator of the spiritual strength of the individual. B. Shaw wrote that it is a great gift to be able to enjoy being alone.

By how a person endures loneliness, one can judge his level of self-sufficiency. A person who lives in harmony with himself will not ask: "Oh my God, why do I need this loneliness?", but rather uses this moment to good use.

In addition, the feeling of loneliness for a modern person is a completely acceptable state. Everyone decides for himself whether to suffer from loneliness or enjoy.

However, there are some reasons for the feeling of loneliness:

1. People around do not always respond correctly to the innermost thoughts that we share with them. There is always a high probability of being misunderstood and ridiculed. Because of this, you have to keep a lot in yourself, and submit information that is acceptable to society.

2. A person is an egocentric creature, so few people sincerely want to listen to other people's problems, and even more so to show empathy. No need to be offended by society for the fact that it often remains indifferent to your experiences.

3. The desire to be loved is actually due to their own selfishness. And the probability of meeting a person with the same thoughts as ours is extremely small. As a result, close people cannot always understand our actions, do not share our plans and views. This misunderstanding leads to a feeling of loneliness, which forces you to look for your soul mate. Since there is no copy of us in the world, it might be better to stop wasting energy on searching for "the one", and direct them to your own good, for example, to self-development? By developing ourselves as a person, we thereby increase the chance to meet a person with the same thoughts and perception of the world.

4. Many people pay attention to all aspects of a love relationship, except for the spiritual. As a result - the bitterness of parting and mutual claims in the style of "I wasted a lot of time on you."

Loneliness should not cause negative experiences. We need to learn to see the positives in this. With the help of loneliness, you can better understand yourself, realize your desires, actions, potential. Thanks to these reflections, a person grows as a person, the level of spirituality rises, and helps not to become discouraged.

Reasons Strong People Are Lonely

Let's summarize what benefits loneliness gives us and why strong people is he chosen? We list some of them:

1. Loneliness promotes development creativity. After all, the main message of creativity lies in the understanding that no one will ever be able to understand us, but art helps to express one's attitude to the world.

2. Loneliness opens up a philosophical attitude to life in a person, makes him dive deeper into his inner world. In the future, such knowledge allows you to better understand others and establish relationships with them.

3. Loneliness gives clarity of thought and sobriety in assessing oneself. Modern man like a squirrel in a wheel, every day is the same, problems are not solved, but only accumulated. If you feel like there is no more vitality, then it’s worth just being alone in order to know yourself and evaluate your life, what are you doing wrong.

Loneliness is a marker of freedom. As soon as a person realizes this, he begins to look at the world in a new way. What to do on the weekend? Yes, a lot of things: a walk in the park, going to a concert, even just watching your favorite comedy with chips at home. What to cook for lunch? Everything your heart desires. What t-shirt to buy? The one that pleases you. Note that everything is simply due to the fact that you do not equal the opinions of others, you do not need to adapt to anyone. You should not build yourself a merry fellow and the soul of the company if you are not. The main thing is that you feel good.

Text from the exam

(1) It seems that the fear of being alone is much more likely than it seems to determine the behavior of people. (2) For example, it is embarrassing for many to walk alone or go to a cafe, it is unbearable to return to an empty apartment in the evening, it is not clear how to spend a weekend or vacation without a company. (3) A hasty marriage, casual friends, meaningless communication are designed to drown out an unpleasant experience, to give confidence. (4) The situation is especially difficult for people who feel lonely, being in the circle of friends or family members. (5) Of course, independent, independent individuals easily experience loneliness, and if at some time they lack communication, then it is enough to see an old friend. (6) A person who hoped to overcome loneliness by entering into marriage will be greatly disappointed if he is convinced that this did not happen. (7) Loneliness is painfully experienced by people who could not imagine themselves without living together with someone, and then unexpectedly, due to divorce or death loved one, were alone. (8) For those who are acutely experiencing their loneliness, there are many programs of psychological and psychotherapeutic assistance. (9) These are meeting groups, as well as trainings that teach acquaintance skills, establishing mutual understanding and sincere, open relationships. (10) Running away from loneliness is wrong and useless, scientists say. (11) The American psychologist J. Odie came to the conclusion that this feeling is creative in nature: (12) “The healthy development of the psyche requires alternating periods of intense receipt of sensations and information with periods of immersion in solitude in order to process them.” (13) According to the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, for the development of a person, “seven times the experience of loneliness” is necessary. (14) Only alone with yourself can you hear your soul, find and understand the only one who will never leave you - yourself. (15) And a person with a full and whole soul is always attractive to others, so he will definitely find with whom to share love and friendship!

(According to M. Shirokova)

Introduction

Problem

The problem of loneliness worries psychologists, poets and writers, artists and scientists. People are trying to comprehend the causes of loneliness, to find out positive sides conflicting feelings associated with the state of loneliness. M. Shirokova tried to express her point of view on this topic.

Comment

She reflects on the problem of loneliness, considering it a motive for any human actions. Sometimes people are even afraid to have lunch or take a walk alone with themselves. In order to somehow smooth out unpleasant feelings for themselves, many people get married or marry without love, they try to be in touch with friends every second through smartphones and communication applications.

The consequence of hasty actions is disappointment - in oneself, in family, in friends. Indeed, without real feelings and mutual understanding, it will not work to share your interests and needs. In other words, this is not the way to overcome loneliness.

There are strong personalities in the world for whom being alone with thoughts means finding answers to many questions related to the knowledge of the world and the people around them. Psychologists are sure that a person needs a feeling of loneliness for harmonious development and the correct building of relationships with reality.

Getting impressions and information should alternate with the moments of their comprehension - the moments of sacred communication with oneself. According to F. Nietzsche, a German philosopher, a person must experience “seven times the experience of loneliness” in his life in order to develop correctly.

Author's position

own position

After reflecting on the proposed text, I would like to agree with its author. We are not going anywhere from loneliness. The feeling of loneliness can push us to take more active steps in the field of building relationships with people - caring for the elderly, finding a soul mate, having children.

Inner experiences encourage creative people to the creation of magnificent works of art: literary essays, heartbreaking musical sketches or masterpieces of painting.

Argument #1

Thinking about loneliness, one cannot help but recall the words from the poem by M.Yu. Lermontov's "Sail": "A lonely sail turns white in the fog of the blue sea. What is he looking for in a distant country? What did he throw in his native land? The poet throughout his short life reflected on the feeling of abandonment, uselessness and restlessness. The theme of loneliness has become one of the main in his work.

It seems to me that the reasons for Lermontov's inexplicable anguish, his understanding of himself as an exile, a proud and lonely Demon, lie in the childhood of the rebellious poet, because he was left an orphan with a living father. He suffered a lot, and the result of these sufferings were his immortal poems.

Argument #2

Another striking literary example of the influence of loneliness on a person's life is the story of F.M. Dostoevsky "White Nights". Main character so lonely that, as he walks, he converses with the trees and buildings he meets. When life gives him a chance for love, he loses it, because he does not know how to live in reality. Most likely, he is not able to build simple human communication, the result of which can be strong family ties.

Conclusion

Loneliness is scary, but it also creates. Self-sufficient people easily cope with this feeling, benefiting from it - knowing themselves and creating the greatest and most powerful works.

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